We can conveniently say you’re aging when you hit 50, right?
First thing first, did you know that aging is natural?
Well heck yes we all know that! And yea you’re also right, it is a rhetoric question.
But then so how do you feel knowing that you’re aging by the minute? Your age had just increased by few minutes since you’ve started reading the first line in this article. So lets discuss…
What age are you?
How many items have you kicked off in your bucket list? If not much, then its time to live out the saying that “life begins at 50” and start ticking them off one after the other.
There are some ideas however on what you can start doing to keep you fit, happy and full of strength.
This must be your daily item. You need those body parts fit and functioning well, you might as well teach them how to do that with daily instructions through exercise.
Walking, jogging, swimming, and dance exercise are the best recommended ones to try. Aerobic exercise works the large muscles in your body, benefitting your cardiovascular system — and your weight. Work up to getting 20 or more minutes per session, 3 or 4 days a week.
Resistance and strength training is particularly important for 50s and above, as it helps slow down bone loss and can reverse the loss of muscle mass. Several workout plans for women over 50 are specifically designed to help older adults develop strength and retain muscle mass.
Self love and acceptance
As we get older you have more time to put yourself first and appreciate your body. If you’ve not already done it, plan for yourself a birthday celebration where everything is exactly as you want it and ensure you have that feel of satisfaction.
Sexy is not a shape, its an attitude. Self-care is about treating yourself right. Being healthy, getting enough sleep. Focusing your mind and energy on the positives and lowering stress. Take care of your body and mind, and you’ll be surprised how easy it will be to feel sexy.
Lather yourself in something lush, soak in a long bath, have a manicure and pedicure. Spray on your favorite perfume. Smelling sweet and being well groomed from head to toe is a sure way to feel sexy, so why not book a wax, a manicure, a pedicure and feel fresh and sexy. Spending a little more time on your routine will add a sparkle to how you feel.
You’re most likely have grown up children / grandchildren who aren’t living with you, or a little too late to have one if you haven’t already. So, you should get some freedom and get off the burden of social responsibility, focusing on yourself. It might also be time to be a little flirtatious. Teasing is pleasing. Tap into your playful side and indulge in some old-fashioned flirting. Lingering eye gazes, bodies touching as you pass, flowing compliments, revealing a naughty cleavage, touching a leg. A bit of flirty body language and conversation will change the mood. And in dressing, a sure way to feel sexy is so feel something sheer, lacy and seductive next to your skin. So treat yourself to some new lingerie. The Little Black Dress is always a winner and most of us have one in the back of the wardrobe, together with some heels and hold ups. The better you feel, the sexier you will be.
But hold the reins there, tiger! Lol… freedom should be with some level of control. The African society especially demands for accountability and responsibility among the elderly, so you should do all in moderation.
What about the attitude.
Speaking of moderation, sexy in this context doesn’t necessarily mean sexual attraction or arousal… though I wouldn’t restrict your mind thinking in that direction at this moment as you most likely already have, lol. The other definition of sexy is “very exciting or appealing” and this is the aspect we’ll be looking at today.
Being sexy starts with the way you think, how you perceive yourself, and how you perceive others. Yes, your appearance does play a role in being sexy, but it plays a much lesser role than how you act, how you treat people, and what your expectations are.
Being sexy is not the same as being a slut. You do not have to dress like a model or provocatively, use foul language, talk about sex all the time, be secular, or hang around men all the time… which of course is the first definition of being sexy.
Being bitchy is not sexy. You can have a body, face and talent like Beyonce, but a stuck on yourself attitude, like you are god’s gift to the world, and people (men and women) will avoid you like a contagious disease.
So, it is best to learn how to act sexy, meaning knowing how to be polite, how to give and receive compliments. Understand and use proper etiquette.
Being sexy means acting like a lady, let the man open the door for you, wait for him to let you enter first, you know what I am talking about, and if you do not, read up on the subject. But also have a sense of humor, be the person people just like to be around. Please do not laugh uncontrollably, you do not want your laugh to be a topic for discussion. And err… on the sexy side, being a bit flirtatious is a real turn on.
Get a thorough understanding of what works best for you when it comes to your appearance. Take some time to watch the Cable TV series “What Not To Wear”, or any of the other clone series on appearance and attitude. The point being, you do not have to spend a lot of money to look good, but you should pay attention to friends and acquaintances reaction to your sense of style. If you are not getting compliments on your hair, make up, shoes, clothes, and accessories, you may want to reassess your choices. One caveat however, if your acquaintances don’t have a clue either, you may need to visit some fashion departments to get to assistance. No need in having the blind lead the blind.
Now let’s get to hygiene. Even though I am assuming that those type of basics are known by default, right?
Being a good conversationalist can be extremely attractive. Being up on current events, being well read, and having a well thought out opinion on various issues is a plus. You do not want to come off as bull headed or overly opinionated either. Being a good listener can be very attractive especially if you can offer some thought-provoking response to what you are hearing.
But can you speak proper grammar? If not, this is going to impact your self-confidence, so get working on your communication skills, it is never too late to work on self-improvement.
Being in good physical condition can be very sexy. I am not talking about being an Olympic athlete, but being extremely over or under weight is not considered sexy to most people. You may not like to exercise, but you may like to walk, or dance, whatever, you need to find something to help burn calories and maintain muscle mass.
If you truly want to be sexy and you are over the age of fifty, I bet you can do whatever is necessary to achieve your goal. The best part is that you will feel good about yourself, and that is what really matters.
It is known that aging and still sexy means you have deeper intimacy with partners, fewer distractions, no pregnancy concerns, and just plain more time to get busy. Plus, you have much more know-how and done-that than those young things on TV.
The movie “Last Chance” is the tale of two of self-pities—Harvey’s daughter has asked her stepfather to replace him at her wedding; Kate is on her way to spinsterhood and caring for a hysterical mother—and it shows that there’s a freedom to even the loneliest old age that can be more romantic than the driven, find-me-a-life-partner focus of the young.
If the movie is to be believed, 40-something has suddenly become the most attractive age a woman can be.
The theory is this: Women in their 20s are looking for a financial help to allow them to afford a comfortable life, and women in their 30s are searching for someone to impregnate them before it’s too late. Only a woman in her late 40s can actually, at last, be interested in what turns her on. And she can be funny about it, too—especially if, like Thompson’s Kate Walker, she’s just been on a blind date that forcefully reminds her of the heedlessness and connection of the young. Especially if the part of the aging old bat is played by Thompson, an actress so irreverent that she keeps her two Oscars in the bathroom, and who brings wit and force to a role that many actresses might have turned down.